LEO AVERBACH's Blog (4)

The chief hallmarks of a malignant divorce are: one, the speed at which it occurs, and two, its ferocity.

It is astounding how quickly relative amity turns into outright enmity when divorce is in the air. One minute you are functioning as an ordinary couple; the next you are at one another's throats. All resentments and past accounts are called in, with no holding back. Even the one diaper change you failed to make seventeen years ago is not forgotten.

The shift from knowing the…

My breakup was a harsh wake-up call, so for a long time I was reluctant to heed it. Going through an unwanted divorce after twenty years of marriage, with three children, appeared to possess all the attributes of hell, with no redeeming features.

The collapse of our relationship caught me off guard. I grew up thinking that marriage was forever and naturally I expected my marriage to last forever. For many years it seemed we were going to live out my vision of marriage and…

Each year millions of people suffer the crippling effects of a life-shattering event – breakup/divorce. Naturally they want to understand their predicament, grasp what has befallen them, or tell the world what they are going through.

Two natural disasters come to mind when thinking about relationship failure: "It's like an earthquake," or "Now I know what it's like to be under a volcano." According to the metaphors, you cannot mend the chasm in the earth or put the…

Genesis of BREAKUP, the book.…