Lost Outside the Marketing Wilderness and I Need HELP!!

Does anyone else find writing so much easier than marketing?

After spending years on researching and writing my book, The Last Heiress: A Novel of Tutankhamun's Queen, a catastrophic family tragedy stripped me of all financial ability to continue on with my editor. Hopeless at agent queries and in despair that my dream was dissolving, I decided to self publish. Of course, this means that the only people who know of my book's existance are my family. I used my Page here to tell the karmically demented tale of my husband's SUV accident and subsequent almost fatal leg infection (which horrifically mirrored the male lead's demise in my historical fiction book) so I won't go into it here. But the result is that I am living in a tiny apartment with my two daughters, and I have no idea how to secure funding for my marketing. My healed husband-thank GOD for modern IV antibiotics and ICUs-suggests writing a book about a poor couple that wins the lotto, since I seem to have a talent for influencing our life with my writing. All joking aside, I am in a terrible place now. I don't know what to do our how to do it, and so I've come here hoping that someone can offer me some pointers. It is an awful thing to spend so long working on a novel only to have it languish in utter obscurity while my family goes without. Is there any hope? How can someone with next to nothing execute a marketing campaign that will reach a healthy number of people, and perhaps even catch the attention of an agent or publishing house? And is it at all possible to get a traditional publisher to re-issue a self-published book? I heard that self publishing is like the kiss of death for a book in the traditional world.

Any help would be greatly appreciated!!!!